"Breast Cancer is a crappy road to find yourself on. One day you’re doing fine then all-of-a-sudden you're facing something that might end your life. There is every reason to find it hard to cope with. For this reason many of the Breast Cancer support options are focused on those who are having a hard time of it.
Right from the outset we, (my husband and I), looked for ways to prevent the cancer from becoming the focus of our lives. It was just a thing we had to deal with, like any other issue that might pop up.
It wasn't all "sunshine and rainbows" for sure, but we took a lot of power away from the cancer by planning ahead, keeping informed and tackling it head-on. The more involved we became the less overwhelming it felt. Eventually we were joking about it and we even turned treatment days into "adventure days" which we really looked forward to.